My 2019 New Years resolution – be kinder to myself!

A brand new shiny year is upon us – which is hard to believe in itself! But we all know that there will be a wave of new year’s resolutions, perhaps you even had a few for yourself. With the turn of a new year, people are always looking to lose weight {myself included}, eat better, exercise more, quit smoking or drinking maybe? And all of those are all well & good in their own right. However, my 2019 resolution isn’t focused on any of those things. Not a single one. In fact, my 2019 wish and aim, is to be kinder to myself

Self-care is a much-needed aspect that needs injecting more into our lives. Even if it’s just 20 mins during your day, or even 5 mins – take the time to be kinder to yourself. You can take five to breathe a little more evenly or if you have a little more time, take yourself out for a walk somewhere. Go and apply your face creams – if you do that sort of thing {another aspect that needs injecting into my life!}. Maybe take a little time to go and have a bath or read a few pages of your new book.

As long as you are doing something for you, then you are on the right track. This is what I plan to do during the course of 2019. It’s not going to be easy, because looking after myself isn’t something I am used to doing. 

I’m not getting any younger and since having my first son at 19, taking care of myself has taken a back seat. My days are filled with caring for others and forever placing myself on a back burner. It’s not good. We may be busy parents, but we need looking after too. So, 2019 is my year to finally place myself a little higher up on the list than I already do. 

So, what do I plan to do to be kinder to myself?

I would love to start taking walks on my own. Some days at home with the kids can be overwhelming. With multiple children there will be fighting, there will be bickering and there will be tantrums. They can ALL want a piece of you, all at the same time. It’s just not possible and it can be massively overwhelming. I never wanted to be a ‘shouty mum’. But days like this make me a shouty mum. So, popping out for a 20-minute walk I think will be a great first step into being kinder to myself. 

Be kinder to yourself

I don’t really have a bedtime routine, so I would love to establish my own bedtime routine. The kids do {obviously} but mine is a little scrambled. This is maybe why my sleeping habits aren’t the greatest. So I would love to start taking myself off to bed at a certain time every evening. Maybe read a book or maybe watch an episode of a TV show. 

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As well as establishing a bedtime routine {finally…at the age of 38!} I would also like to finally stick to my own skincare routine. I say I will do this all the time, but classically, never get around to it because where am I? That’s right, the back burner! 

Every day, or maybe it’s a flaw in my DNA – who knows, but on a daily basis I take on far too much. Then, I would beat myself up for not getting all of it done. The reasons could be anything from lack of motivation & energy. Having a down day {I don’t get many of these, but I do}, or other factors have invaded my plans or perhaps there just wasn’t enough hours in the day.

So I plan to be realistic {and kind} when I write out my daily to-do lists. Making sure I know everything cannot be done, by one person, at once. To take little steps, do what I can little and often and things will get done. I was always that child who wanted Rome to be built in a day. Clearly into adulthood, not much has changed! But, I’m trying. 

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Overall, for someone who has never rated herself worthy of taking time out for herself, I need to be realistic and not take on too much. So, I think focusing on taking time out for myself, to clear my head and any daily stresses as I go for a walk is a great first step. Followed by establishing my own bedtime & skincare routine – which I think will really help me with my sleeping pattern.

Then lastly, being kind to myself to not put too much on my shoulders on a daily basis. I need to remember that I am not the only person in this house and certainly not the only person who should be doing everything. My key point to remember in among the madness of 2019? Be kinder to myself! 

Have you made any new year’s resolutions? I’d love to hear all about them! 

Also, today is New Year’s Eve {hard to believe, I know!} but I hope whatever your plans, that you have fun, stay safe and welcome the New Year in, in style! I will be tucked up in bed, with a belly full of a takeaway – I’m not much of a party girl! This is how I rock and roll! Either way, the HAPPIEST OF NEW YEAR TO YOU! 


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  1. 02/01/2019 / 2:09 PM

    It is so funny that you mentioned going out for 20 minute walks when that is one of my goals this year. 20 minute brisk walks with my dog 🙂

  2. 02/01/2019 / 2:19 PM

    I absolutely love this post! Being kinder to yourself is so, so, so important! Not many people realise how important self-care and love really is. You’ve picked great places to start focusing on (especially going for walks and bedtime routines). Knowing when you take on too much and adapting to your mind and body’s needs is a very hard thing to do, but it’s also one of the best ways to practice self-love and kindness. I hope 2019 brings you lots of good vibes and energy. Good luck with your self-kindness journey! Keep us updated! X

  3. 02/01/2019 / 6:59 PM

    It is important to incorporate self care into our lives more, There are so many things I should look at doing myself as most things are always around the children so it can be pretty stressful everyday. I think my list is topped by sleeping earlier. The extra rest will make me feel better.

  4. 02/01/2019 / 8:14 PM

    Self care is so important, and I think I am only just beginning to realise I am much happier once I have done some stuff for myself. If that’s just to read my book for ten minutes, go for a walk on my own (very rare) or just go to bed earlier and get a good night’s sleep! Hope you have a great 2019!

  5. 03/01/2019 / 8:22 AM

    I find New Year’s Resolutions don’t tend to work for me but I do want to make some lifestyle changes that I will introduce slowly. Walking more is one of them, I love getting fresh air and we have such wonderful countryside locally

  6. 03/01/2019 / 9:19 AM

    I think this is such a good and important resolution to make. We need to be kinder on ourselves and our bodies to ensure we aren’t pushing ourselves x

  7. 03/01/2019 / 2:23 PM

    This is an excellent, and realistic goal – one I should adopt for myself! Wishing you all the best for a wonderful 2019 x

  8. 03/01/2019 / 2:24 PM

    This is totally my New Years resolution too. I am very good at being kind to others but I struggle to be kind to myself. Its so important!

  9. 04/01/2019 / 8:12 AM

    I am not big on the word resolutions and often people fail them rather I have set goals for 2019 that I check in every month end and being kinder to myself is high on my list

  10. 04/01/2019 / 11:32 AM

    Sometimes we can be our biggest enemy and it’s mice to hear that you are now able to recognise that and try and change the way you treat yourself. You are your own best friend you just love yourself first and foremost!

  11. 04/01/2019 / 3:00 PM

    This is such a positive and mentally healthy way to go about resolutions! I also want to establish a better evening routine, but I also want to take my blog to the next level, and take steps towards learning piano and recording an EP.

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