The Stubborn Toddler

This weekend, in fact, this last lot of weeks has seen the battle of the ‘stubborn toddler’. Call it stubborn, strong willed or whatever, but either way…from a Mothers point of view it’s a pretty frustrating situation.

I can honestly say that I cannot recall ever having this power struggle with my older four children when they were wee. Annabelle has been by far the most ‘strong willed’ of them all {this does not give me confidence for her as she gets older!}.

She detests her pushchair so it’s walking for her which in turn has faced us with endless stand-offs & many failed attempts at sneaky parenting strategies such as, “Go get Jacob to beat his bum!” or “Lets go home and give River a great.big.hug”. Nothing works. Not-a-single-thing-works. Sigh.
In one afternoon we had three standoffs. The walking away does not work, at all! Her
stubbornness {or strong willed nature!} is truly defiant {which actually impresses me} and I honestly think she is programmed to butt heads with me.

Let’s play a game of spot the toddler!
I zoom way in….{you gotta love theSamsungg Galaxy K Zoom!}

Oh look! There she is. Looking pretty secure in her beliefs of she isn’t moving on anyone elses terms, only her own. She’s two and a half going 13! Her terms will be something like watching Dora the Explorer with the BIGGEST bowl of ice-cream. This FYI was not something I was willing to yield for just to get her to move!

I honestly think you could walk away on this kid and not a single gram of bother will be dispursed. She’s infuriating! I did walk behind a fence once, able to peek through at her, and she turned her head and admired her surroundings. I mean, seriously?

So what are her reasons for her unwillingnss to move? Because she’s too darn lazy to walk any further. If she still loved her buggy things could have been different, but no…she just assumes when she wants she can be carried. Well, I say otherwise which results in our stalmates. Constant, all the time, infuriating stalmates.

But I can see these continuing as we sail through the final months of her being two. I hope to goodness these ‘refusing to move’ moments fade when she hits her third year as don’t get me wrong, her being a girl I know I have a lot more levels of power struggles ahead of me. I have a 10yr old daughter, so I am already totally clued up on that one! So for now…I have a stubborn-but-we’ll-call-her-strong-willed-for-now toddler on my hands who I am both in love with and infuriated by all rolled into one! Joys of parenting eh!

Do you have a stubborn toddler? 



  1. 02/09/2015 / 9:11 PM

    To be honest, I have this with T so I refuse to go out with him without a pushchair and even if he doesn’t want to go in it he will go in it with force when he behaves like this. I think sometimes you need to be cruel to be kind and not be dictated to by a toddler. I hope she gets less stubborn as time goes by x

    • 02/09/2015 / 9:13 PM

      I think she does dictate to me, to a degree. But her and her buggy under no circumstances are friends. Besides she’s to tall for it would you believe! So her feet touch the ground, she’ll arch her back and practically turns herself into bloody Fred flintstone with a side order of pebbles, making pushing the buggy impossible. It’s frustrating. But lately I have been just taking her by the hand and walking her next to me regardless of her protests. We could be getting somewhere. I think it’s a little to early to tell yet x

  2. 04/09/2015 / 11:15 PM

    My daughter was a dream, my son however, well I could walk home and he’s still be standing in the town centre refusing to move I suspect! He’s 4 and still pretty stubborn. Not just with moving, with sharing and with apologising too. It’s a long road ahead I fear!x

    • 09/09/2015 / 11:34 AM

      Sometimes its hard not to laugh too in those situations, right? lol!

  3. 09/09/2015 / 1:48 PM

    Oh bless you Debs. I can relate to you. Walking away from Elliw doesn’t work either! She would quite happily run to the middle of the road with a car coming!!
    Her temper is unreal!

    Hopefully they will be easy going teenagers haha *crossfingers*


    • 09/09/2015 / 1:53 PM

      Its tough going isn’t it, lol. Oh gosh no about the road! THATS scary! Thankfully Annabelle hasn’t tried pulling anything nuts like that {yet!} although touch wood she never does!!

      Girls have gigantic tempers don’t they! Haha fingers crossed too!! x

  4. Jodie Allen at Budget Beauty and Babies
    09/09/2015 / 4:43 PM

    Oh god i am dreading the toddler days! I mean i am looking forward to them for lots of reasons… BUT lexie is already what we are calling “head strong” (read stubborn!) so god knows the fun i’m going to have when she’s a toddler! Great post! #MMWBH

  5. 09/09/2015 / 5:28 PM

    This must drive you mad! I kind of admire how strong willed she is though, I’m sure that is a skill that will stand her well in later life, would just be good if she found someone else to practice it on lol Thanks for hosting the #MMWBH

  6. 10/09/2015 / 11:21 AM

    I can relate. My daughter is nearly 2 and we have power struggles like this when we take walks around our neighborhood. She’s still too young to to go off by herself, so the rule is that she has to hold my hand. She will, but only for a few meters. Then she’ll let go and run. BOLT as far as she can get to where she wants to go (usually to admire a tree or some sort…). Much like your situation, it’s infuriating! You’re right in saying this is only the tip of the iceberg. So, I’m crossing my fingers for you and I that our bouts with our stubborn toddler gets a bit easier to handle (and they outgrow it soon). Thanks so much for hosting us for #mmwbh

  7. Mummy here and there
    11/09/2015 / 9:14 AM

    I’m going through this stage. It is so frustrating grrrrr!

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