Raising girls {talking birds, bees and monthly cycles!}

Recently, I was invited to take part in the Mummy conversations campaign with Canesten® to help empower other Mums to be able to talk to their daughters about puberty & their own intimate health.

I am a Mother of five children. Three boys & two girls. Boys pretty much raise themselves {in a way} but it’s the girls I find need a bit more fine-tuning because let’s face it, we have more to maintain on the body front than the boys do.

Boys don’t have to shave their legs, or their armpits, wax their upper lip because a moustache is trying to make you look like your Dad or {and this is the big one} deal with cramps, mood swings and bleeding from the genitals for 5-7 days each month. Yay to being a woman, right?

So, as a Mother to my two daughters, it also makes it my job to make sure they are both up-to-speed on how to maintain themselves. Thankfully, my youngest daughter is far too young for any of the above, however, my older daughter {currently eleven} is on the cusp of womanhood.

Now, growing up myself, my Mother wasn’t exactly around & I lived with my military Father. Could you imagine having to approach him to let him know that I had just ‘became a woman’ and we needed to make a trip to the chemist for tampons? Mortifying. For him, more than me; because back then it was such a taboo subject. And now we are in 2017, in some cases, it is still a taboo subject.

I refuse to not talk about these natural and perfectly normal things with my daughters. In fact, two years ago I bought my eldest daughter a few books; about emotions and how to care for your body. It gives you the different steps of breast growth {so you know it’s started!}, how to wash, tips on shaving those armpits & legs and it even mentions signs of Thrush and how to get it treated. They’re amazing. They’ve acted as a great resource if she had any questions or curiosities and obviously she knew she could come to me with other stuff too; which she has and that has been amazing.

Intimate health shouldn’t be a taboo subject. We all have to do it so why make it ‘a thing’. In schools we all remember the cringe-worthy sex education class, however, there isn’t an intimate health class is there? Therefore it is up to us Mums to approach with gentleness and understanding to aid our daughters into becoming confident and educated young woman about their own bodies.

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  1. emma walters
    25/01/2017 / 6:15 AM

    ive got a while yet for my daughter but i think i will start with a couple of books and see what questions come out of it. i wonder if there is something for boys too

  2. Andrew Petrie
    25/01/2017 / 4:06 PM

    My ex Wife did a long long time ago.

  3. 25/01/2017 / 4:07 PM

    I think its good to discuss lots over time. Luckily i only have boys but had to have chats with girls as a teacher

  4. 25/01/2017 / 4:10 PM

    With 2 teenage girls both currently going through puberty, those talks have been a regular thing round here for the last couple of years now. We try to have girly days every now & then, where the boys go out so it’s just us girls, and we do girly things like manicures/pedicures, and talk about anything we need to talk about x

  5. Laura Beresford
    25/01/2017 / 4:19 PM

    I have given my son (age 6) and daughter (age 4) a vague idea of periods and growing up. I wanted to answer some of their questions when I had their baby brother 9 months ago! But not enough detail to feel awkward if they repeated it in the playground to other kids 🙂

  6. Linda Ewing
    25/01/2017 / 7:28 PM

    My eldest daughters 9 at the moment and I really need to start preparing myself for the chat, although it may be a little while yet I’m really not sure on where to start, I’ll definitely be keeping my eye out for some books to help with ways to answer any questions she may have 🙂 x

  7. Andrea Upton
    25/01/2017 / 9:13 PM

    I only have boys, but we have still have talks about growing up

  8. Deborah Nicholas
    25/01/2017 / 9:20 PM

    My eldest girl is only 6 so i am hoping there are a few years before i have to. We are very open with all of our children so there are probably things they will know before we get round to the talk. She knows what ‘lady things – sanitary towels etc) are for and a little about periods and keeping clean etc but i think that is just basics 🙂

  9. kim plant
    26/01/2017 / 10:50 AM

    yes although in not great detail x

  10. Emma Fox
    28/01/2017 / 9:40 AM

    I only have a boy – however he’ll need a ‘chat’ of his own at some point in the future!

  11. 29/01/2017 / 10:07 PM

    I have one of each but ensure they are each aware of their current stage in life and all the essentials which go along side that.

  12. Natalie White
    31/01/2017 / 8:31 PM

    I don’t have a daughter (yet!) but it might be something coming up soon with a friend’s daughter! I’m going to link her to this page 🙂

  13. Ross
    31/01/2017 / 8:36 PM

    I don’t have a daughter yet, but if I do I’ll leave let my partner do the talking! These are all good tips though so will be sure to pass them on!

  14. Ross
    31/01/2017 / 8:36 PM

    I don’t have a daughter yet, but if I do I’ll leave let my partner do the talking! These are all good tips though so will be sure to pass them on!

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