The Talk! – Puberty, Boobs & Periods.

I have been feeling something brewing for a few weeks now, something I was hoping could and would be held off for a while yet. But it seems time was out of my control and this weekend, it fell on me…like a brick.

My nine year old daughter and I had ‘the talk’. Ellies been a bit of a confused little hurricane recently. Abrupt mood swings, whether it be true anger through the lack of peace or absolute heartache through dropping her ice-cream cone and it wasn’t even the fallen ice cream that crushed her, it was the shittyness of the happenings that struck a cord with her. Poor girl. So as you can see, she’s a little scrambled, her Mama took heed and tried to be a little prepared. However it seems I wasn’t as prepared as I had hoped.

Being raised by a wonderful military man, who really didn’t talk about his feelings and was a little difficult to approach at the ‘girlie’ stuff….I felt like I needed to do a little homework. It seemed I needed to learn how to approach the subject to my daughter, who all-to-soon will be going through something that all of us girls have went through when our time came: Puberty.

I was lucky enough to come across some books over on Amazon that covered pretty much everything I needed to help my daughter be prepared, cope with and accept these future changes and why everything happens to our bodies when we’re growing up. They are called The Care & Keeping of you {For younger girls}, The Feelings Book & also The Feelings journal.

Then the moment came….unexpectantly….but we closed ourselves into the den, warning the boys that a very important girl talk was happening and to give us some space. She looked a little “OMG what have I done” but I assured her nothing and handed her over the books.
We spoke very freely about everything, {even accepting that stuff is beginning to happen up top!} and I have to say….damn…I am so proud of that girl…she took everything on her shoulders, breathed in & absorbed in every single word and has taken on this challenge before her of growing up and my god, this girl is going to handle it in style. I can see the odd storm ahead, but I hope I can be a good crew member on board to help her sail through it all.

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  1. 20/09/2014 / 11:04 PM

    You’ll be an amazing crew member Debs and she is lucky to have you. I’m so pleased daddy can have a man to man chat with my tow when the time comes! 😉 x

    • 20/09/2014 / 11:07 PM

      Aww thank you Jo as at the moment I am just so unsure! I think the books were a big help though, as I found her in bed over an hour later two thirds of the way through one of them! So it intrigues her, which pleases me. And boys are soooo much easier than girls for sure, lol x

  2. 21/09/2014 / 6:59 AM

    Oh wow. With two daughters, I know this is coming my way. I keep telling my wife she’ll have to help me out with this but she doesn’t look enthused at the idea! Help!!

  3. 21/09/2014 / 8:04 PM

    As I have a 9 year old too, I am about to click through and have a look at those books!! 🙂 Glad all went well!

    • 21/09/2014 / 9:03 PM

      My Ellie really loves them and is finding them very resourceful. I really couldn’t priase them enough, I think they are great for any growing girl. x

  4. 21/09/2014 / 8:51 PM

    Such a daunting conversation to have!! I remember having it with my girl a few years ago…..She took it well.

    • 21/09/2014 / 9:04 PM

      It was a seriously emotional conversation to have Kim. I was in BITS afterwards for ages. She took it so well though, and there was me in pieces. lol! Scary how fast they grow up! x

  5. lifewithmunchers
    21/09/2014 / 9:22 PM

    You, my love, rock as a mummy! My mother just left it to the school. She avoided all these awkward talks.
    She’ll appreciate hearing it all from you and I think that’s a great foundation for coming to you in the future as she gets older.
    I’ve a few years yet, but I’ll be coming back to this post for the book links 😉 x

  6. 21/09/2014 / 9:26 PM

    Good on you Mumma for handling it head on and having the chat with her, Future chats will be a breeze! HIGH FIVE! x

  7. 22/09/2014 / 2:01 PM

    My mum just ‘left’ a book out ominously one day for me to look at! I am aiming for a little more interaction when it’s my turn to do this talk. Sounds like you did a great job.

  8. 22/09/2014 / 2:17 PM

    Well done on handling it so well, it’s difficult to know when to have that conversation. Whether it’s best for your kids at that time, I think you read the signs well and have given her the grounds on which she’ll have to take steps with as she gets older, and the knowledge you’re approachable about the subject should she ever need advice on anything. Dropping in from What’s the Story.

  9. 22/09/2014 / 9:19 PM

    Ooh, scary conversation I am dreading. It sounds like it went very well.

    • 23/09/2014 / 12:06 PM

      Aww thanks hun! It was a seriously easy to talk about conversation, but a very tough subject for me to come to terms with having with her! Man, they grow FAR too fast! xxx

  10. 24/09/2014 / 9:34 AM

    WE had the birds and bees talk a couple mnths ago…I did a rubbish job of it. I totally forgot all the puberty bit so I think i need a awkward talk part 2! Shall take a look at the books you recommend. X

  11. 24/09/2014 / 11:43 PM

    Well done on one of the most awkward mummy talks you’ll have!
    I remember I was a little bit young (9!) and the unexpected happened before my mum had a chance to tell me anything oops

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