Father’s Day is for StepDads too!

“Anyone can be a Father, but it takes someone special to be a Daddy”. 

The saying above rings so true for us as a family, and I guess with this day and age we’re more of a normal family than we realise. I have an ex-husband and we co-parent with our children – I mean, that’s the best possible example to set for our children, right?

My children not only have their own Dad, who they love very much and spend most weekend’s with, but they have a StepDad too. However, we don’t use the term StepDad really, because well, if I’m honest I don’t really know why. My husband has been in their lives since they were very young, Jacob being just two years old when they met for the first time.

Through the years he has read bedtime stories, wiped away tears, been a true homework hero, comforted, cooked, and cleaned up after them and treated them like his own. Like a Dad should. He doesn’t see himself as their Dad, but he does seem them being his family. He’s a bonus Dad in their eyes and I really love that. Having two male Father figures in your life, both loving you, both wanting you to succeed in life and who both have your back, 100% can never be a bad thing.

Being the male role model they see 90% of every week is a huge responsibility and my darling man has taken it on with nothing but pride and honour. He regularly says to me that he sees them as his {in a way} and will treat them no less as that. They have their moments and we have our fair share of arguments and fallouts. What family doesn’t have those! But they look up to him for advice, help, guidance and whatever else they feel they can go to him for.

Them having that bond and that relationship is so very important to me. Bringing in someone new to your family unit can be a bumpy road, but thankfully ours wasn’t too rocky and we smoothed it out to form a beautiful family unit. 

My husband celebrates the day because he has a daughter of his own, but Father’s Day is for Stepdad’s too. It’s a shame that the Father’s Day cards for StepDads are so minimal in stores {hopefully that changes!} but I love that his ‘bonus kids’ shower him in gifts, cards, hugs and chants of “Happy Father’s Day” too. He deserves it and as I sit here typing this I realise that I do have enough photos of the children and their Dad/Bonus Dad. I’ll certainly change that!

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  1. Jane S. Susaeta
    20/06/2017 / 7:28 PM

    That’s so beautiful!!!

  2. 20/06/2017 / 8:18 PM

    My step dad is part of the family and I was happy to get to celebrate him this last fathers day too.

    • 22/06/2017 / 12:02 PM

      Aww, this is so lovely! I hope he had a lovely day.

  3. 21/06/2017 / 2:13 AM

    This is such a great point. Many times the step parent is much more of a parent than the biological parent!

  4. 21/06/2017 / 2:31 AM

    I think anyone who’s considered a father figure should get celebrated. A father isn’t always a blood relative. But it’s amazing when families can blend together and show healthy relationships!

  5. 22/06/2017 / 4:48 AM

    Love this! Families and parenting can look like so many different things, and making space to celebrate all of them is so important.

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